Paying your children for babysitting (or any other household chore) is definitely a matter that has some controversy. In a capitalist society, we do often rate the value of ourselves or things based on its worth in dollars. However, as a democratic society, we also understand the value of having a voice/casting a vote. Our primary relationships are those within our family, and in that group we learn about relationships. Families are complicated…yes. Each family is different and similar. … [Read more...]
Going from ”I Can’t” to “I Can”: 5 Steps To Getting There (And You CAN)
If you haven’t heard it yet, or even if you have, here it is: “Thoughts become things”. Is it true? Well, I believe it is. Even if you don’t believe that statement, you may believe or consider that your thoughts (or attitude) impact your behavior. Your behavior, or what you do, definitely changes things, positively or negatively. So, what you believe or the thoughts that you have create and impact your reality. So, if you think you can’t, then you can’t. You won’t ever know, because … [Read more...]
Patience, Patience, Patience
I find that patience is a hot commodity these days. Literally, having access to the world at the push of a button boggles the mind, but don’t think about that too much. I know we’re used to it. I understand that kids are born into a world that doesn’t know life without a touchscreen and virtual reality. A world with such immediacy neither fosters nor tolerates patience well. Patience, as they say, is a virtue. Well, I don’t hear much talk about virtue either. I do believe that perhaps … [Read more...]
12 Instant Confidence Boosters You Need in Your Life
Confidence is the one quality nearly all of us strive for, but it’s also one of the hardest to attain. In fact, self-doubt plagues most of us, whether it concerns our appearance, intelligence, humor, or our likability in general. And as easy as it might sound to “be confident,” it’s not as simple as telling yourself to do so. “Confidence is not a result, but a muscle that you have to work at building up,” says Amy Kosh, a life coach based in Asheville, North Carolina and an author at An … [Read more...]
Go Ahead….Make Your Day in 3 Easy Ways
So, here you have just 3 simple things you can do to Make Your Day…. MAKE SOMEONE ELSE’S DAY: Staying out of your own head, and doing something for someone else is an express lane to improving your day. Opportunities abound to help someone else. It can be as simple as paying a compliment to a complete stranger or calling an old friend out of the blue or returning a call. You could give someone a needed hug, or send an “I love you” text. How about inviting a friend or family member or a … [Read more...]
YA GOTTA HUSTLE
Many people have heard of and/or ascribe to the law of attraction. I believe in the law of attraction, karma and the concept that thoughts become things. These concepts are unique, yet closely related. The law of attraction requires keeping your thoughts in a positive frame if you want to attract positive results and opportunities. The opposite holds true. If you focus on the negative, then you’ll get that too. Karma, embodies the moral notion that , “You reap what you sow.”. People … [Read more...]
March On!
Saturday, January 21, 2017….what a remarkable day in history. Women all over the world united to STAND UP for themselves and their loved ones. I joined in the St. Louis March. The energy was amazing. People were speaking out, joining together in a peaceful and joyful expression about what matters most to them. I had the great fortune to be able to talk with many of the marchers. And there were all kinds of people there. There were, of course, women. Women of all kinds: young women, … [Read more...]
Just Being Hu (You)man
As a coach and counselor, my belief and value is that I am here to help. Being a helper puts me in a position where I constantly have to learn and grow. Sometimes, I’ve been the helpee. It takes courage to ask for help. A helpee can feel vulnerable. There appears to be an imbalance of power. The counselor is the “expert”. They’ve got it all together. They must, right? They have all the answers. Right? I sure hope so. They can “fix” me. Right? Well, they can sure try. Speaking … [Read more...]
It’ll All Work Out
Having an optimistic attitude makes all the difference. One of my favorite movie scenes is from the movie, "The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel". The movie takes place in India, and tells the story of several British retirees staying in a dilapidated hotel. In one particular scene, the young owner of the hotel tries to reassure one of his disgruntled British guests. By the Brit's standards, the accommodations were far from acceptable. In a state of complete frustration the guest confronts the … [Read more...]
From Anxiety to Serenity
I talk to a lot of people who experience anxiety. Sometimes when I'm first meeting people who come to me for help, they aren't sure or aware that the uncomfortable feeling they have come to know and not love is what is called anxiety. Anxiety has become a buzz word. People used to just worry or feel nervous or tense. Anxiety is all those things, but a little bit more. We can be worried about starting a new job or the first day of school. We can feel nervous about public speaking or … [Read more...]