Fess Up About How You Feel
When the people around you are all merry and bright and you’re, well, not, sucking it up because you’re not “supposed” to feel bad during the holidays just leads to more crappy feelings. “Acknowledging your emotions gives you the opportunity to let them go,” says Vivian Sierra, a licensed marriage and family therapist in St. Louis. By suppressing them, you’re basically allowing your life to get stuck in neutral. “Being authentic is the gateway to future healthy relationships—and ultimately, love,” she says. Translation: Take the time to put your feet up and get your bah humbug on.
A Solid Support System is Crucial
“Surround yourself with positive, healthy, and supportive people. There’s a group of fortunate people who get divorced and do not have any difficulty with the adjustment—but for those who do, I suggest having and engaging a support system. Divorce is about grief. People who get divorced lose a lot: money, their home, time with their children, in-laws, friends, even social status. If your network is not strong, consider joining a support group or club.”