Life takes twists and turns. And sometimes life is more like a merry-go-round. Sometimes we may think we’re riding a different merry-go-round with different colors or animated animals or themes, but a merry-go-round is still a merry-go-round.
One way to get off the merry-go-round is to realize that you are actually riding one. Yes, you must first realize that you have bought a perpetual ticket. It has been fun for while, but then it’s time to get off, because you don’t really get anywhere. What exactly is the point of riding a merry-go-round? Well, at first, it is a novel and fun distraction, yet eventually becomes maddening, and can even make some people rather sick.
My life in some ways has been just that. Wait….I have not just created a forum for complaints about mishaps, ill-fated events, and a treatise on how life is unfair. On the contrary, I’m wandering into the “I/You can take control of your life” territory. Oftentimes a merry-go-round life fits the “everything is just fine” category. Other times a merry-go-round grows us accustomed to sameness, stuckness and even misery.
Some of the signs of when it’s time to consider getting off the merry-go-round are feeling numb, confused, dizzy, blah or stuck. Sound familiar? More seriously, the perpetual rider experiences depression, anxiety, and anger. The merry-go-round can leave one vulnerable to unnecessary pain and even abuse. There is a slow leak of joy, wonder and passion from life. Then you wonder how you got there, and more importantly how to stop the ride.
The merry-go-round can be deceptive since it’s familiar. You always know where you will arrive… right where you started. It doesn’t require one to take risk or be particularly vulnerable. It doesn’t go too fast. But again, it doesn’t go anywhere. Getting off the merry-go-round is where the fun begins.
Yes, that’s right! You create a myriad of other choices and opportunities when you step off and step out. It might not happen overnight, but that’s your choice. We often ask for change, but are hesitant to receive it. We can fill our heads with the “what ifs” as if that were a bad thing. What if changing led to something amazing. What if I had to challenge myself? What if I enjoyed my life, or even loved my life? What if I felt successful and awesome? What if I found out I can do anything or be anything I want? What if wonderful surprises became a way of life? Yes, it can happen. I am here to tell you that it is true.
So, go ahead. Stop the merry-go-round. Step off, and walk away. Walk away, not with anger or dread, but with a full and hopeful heart. This is a choice you make. This is a daily practice. The more you practice, the better you get. The better you get, the better life gets, and so on. I am here to tell you it is never to late, and definitely always worth it.
Merry-go-rounds are beautiful and fun, but only for a short ride.
Peace and love,