If you were anywhere near the internet last year, you probably came across the term FOMO—an acronym meaning Fear of Missing Out—at least a few times (or a few dozen!). Inspired and spurred by social media, the concept quickly swept the nation.
FOMO was the feeling you had while sitting at home eating leftovers while all your friends tagged each other in Instagram posts about the incredible meal they were having at the hot new restaurant downtown. FOMO happened when you went to bed early on a Saturday—and woke up Sunday morning to a Facebook feed full of photos of the crazy party you missed out on. FOMO was what forced you out of your house on the weekend to stop by your friend’s brother’s neighbor’s backyard barbecue: sure, maybe you didn’t really feel like going—but what if you missed something awesome?.
That’s why FOMO became such a popular idea: Everyone can relate to the fear of missing out on life. But in 2020, news reports are already circulating about a new spin on the concept: instead of succumbing to FOMO this year, we should all aspire to embrace the concept of JOMO: the JOY of missing out!
Ways to Live the “JOMO” Lifestyle
- Remind yourself that no one is having as much fun as social media makes it seem. After all, most people don’t post the really boring stuff—“Here I am watching another episode of CSI”; “Here’s a picture of me cleaning my bathroom!” So when it feels like everyone in the world is out having a blast except for you, just remember: not everything is as it seems online.
- Stay home and indulge in a guilty pleasure. Maybe you secretly love binging on old episodes of Real Housewives or spending a few hours playing mindless video games. Instead of feeling guilty for your hidden passion, devote some time to embracing it. We all deserve space to do what truly makes us happy—even if it’s a little embarrassing!
- Embark on a new creative journey. Take a moment to think, really think: are there any projects that you’ve always wanted to try, but have been too busy or too afraid to attempt? This year, I invite you to acknowledge your own inherent capability. Instead of spending another night out at the bars (or sitting home and watching the Instagram stories of people who are out at the bars), why not explore a creative pursuit? Knitting, jewelry making, writing poetry—try your hand at something new.
- Volunteer! I always recommend volunteering to any client who wants to shake herself out of a rut. And for good reason: there is ample evidence that helping others can make you feel calmer, more centered, and just plain happier. So instead of worrying about what your acquaintances are getting up to, lend a hand to someone in need. You’ll be glad you did.
So tell me: how do you plan to practice self-care this year? What’s your favorite thing to do on a night in? I’m looking forward to hearing your ideas—I could use some new ones myself!
Peace and love,